Being An Authentic Leader Means You Are More Often Pistachio Versus Vanilla
Ever notice how vanilla ice cream, while perfectly fine, rarely creates memorable experiences? Yet pistachio - with its distinctive flavor and bold green color - tends to generate strong reactions and loyal fans. That's exactly what authentic leadership looks like.
In my last post (#32), we explored why 'different is better than better' and the power of embracing our unique advantages as an individual. Today, we're diving deep into both challenges: how to stop diluting your distinctive leadership style, and how to create an environment where your team members can bring their full, pistachio flavored selves to work.
PART 1: EMBRACING YOUR AUTHENTIC LEADERSHIP - A REFRESHER
THE DAILY STRUGGLE
Ever catch yourself:
• Downplaying your attention to detail to seem more 'easy-going'?
• Hiding your drive for excellence to avoid being labeled 'difficult'?
• Softening your analytical insights to 'keep the peace'?
SHIFTING YOUR MINDSET
The breakthrough comes when you realize:
• Safety isn't found in conformity - it's found in authenticity
• Your 'intense' traits are actually your superpowers
• What others call 'too much' might be exactly what's needed
PRACTICAL STEPS FOR YOU
1. Replace Self-Doubt with Self-Awareness
Instead of: "Sorry I'm being so detailed..."
Try: "Thank you for letting me ensure we've covered all angles."
2. Own Your Natural Approach
Instead of: "I know I'm being too thorough..."
Try: "My analysis has prevented costly mistakes before."
3. Celebrate Your Impact
Instead of: "I know I'm demanding high standards..."
Try: "I'm committed to exceptional results."
PART 2: CREATING SPACE FOR AUTHENTIC TEAMS
THE LEADER'S CHALLENGE
As leaders, we often:
• Unintentionally encourage conformity
• Miss opportunities to leverage differences
• Focus on fixing weaknesses instead of amplifying strengths
TRANSFORMING TEAM DYNAMICS
Start with these moves:
1. Active Appreciation
"Today's challenge needs both quick thinking AND deep analysis. Sarah, we'll need your rapid insights. Tom, your thorough review will be crucial."
2. Strategic Strength Positioning
"We don't need everyone doing everything. We need each person bringing their unique strength."
3. Difference-Driven Success Stories
Share examples of how diverse approaches led to better outcomes
CREATING PSYCHOLOGICAL SAFETY
Build an environment where:
• Different working styles are actively celebrated
• Unique perspectives are sought out
• Various approaches are seen as complementary
• 'Different' becomes a strategic advantage
PRACTICAL IMPLEMENTATION
For Your Next Team Meeting:
1. Open by acknowledging various working styles
2. Assign tasks based on natural strengths
3. Celebrate diverse contributions to success
THE COMPOUND EFFECT
When you create this environment:
• Innovation flourishes naturally
• Engagement deepens
• Results improve
• Retention strengthens
• Teams become more resilient
SO, IF ALL ELSE, YOUR TAKEWAY FOR TODAY
Your O.N.E. Thing for You:
1. Notice when you apologize for your strengths and instead speak of it with appreciation and strength
Your O.N.E. Thing for Your Team:
1. Identify each team members’ strengths, acknowledge it, and think “how can I use this person’s strength on the team, more.”
Because remember: Strong teams aren't built on conformity. They're built on authentic contributions from authentically different leaders and team members.
🎯 Reflection Questions:
For You: What strength have you been dimming that your team actually needs?
For Your Team: How can you create more space for different approaches this week?
🎁 GIFT IDEA:
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Ready to be pistachio and not vanilla? I know you are.
Leave a spark wherever you go. Keep shining!
Email: SHiNE_Workbook@shaw.ca
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